How often is often in the land of sex? You hear men discuss how little they get it and women who are comfortable with the amount of time that they get it. What is a happy medium between the two?

What do you consider often? Once a week, three times a week or once or more a day? The problem in many couples is their levels of satisfaction are different. One person in a couple may think once a week is often while the other may not have that same opinion. This is where we need to have a little communication within the relationship. Understanding what your partner’s expectations are.

The factor of the day to day life; plays a role in one or both parties in the relationship feeling up to having sex. If you have been ripping and running all day after kids, plus working a full time job, daily sex may not be what you are in the mood for. This is where understanding comes in from your partner. Shucks, you may not feel very sexy after everything you’ve done all day.

How do you make that compromise? First, you need to understand what’s going on in each others lives to appreciate the answers you get when it comes to sex. Don’t take it so personal if the answer is no, he or she may really be just too tired. Do your best to make some time for just the two of you. Set up date nights,etc. that may allow a bit or relaxing and romancing to take place and get you both in the mood. Discuss what you would like to see happen in the bedroom and how often with your partner.

Communication is the key to happiness in all aspects of life. You will never find someone to meet your expectations in or out of the bedroom; if you never relay what it is they are.